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I am Christian. I had a dream that I was standing on a dirt path. To the right of me was a large dirt plane of earth. On it were at least a hundred cots all perfectly lined-up. Beside the cots were laundry baskets. People were going up to the cots with large wood or stone idols in their hands (about 2-2.5 feet tall.) They would lie down and then put their idols into the basket and go to sleep. Above the cots were thick wires with ski lift type chairs going along them. People were going along in the ski lifts picking up the idols from the baskets where the people were sleeping. I asked why they were taking the idols and they said, "This place would get full pretty quickly if we didn't." I wondered why people were carrying idols in this day and age.

Dear Dreamer
If the dream is literal, the dream suggests that even in death the woman is unable to turn lose of her attachment to your boyfriend. If this is the case, I would recommend praying for her and seeing her surrounded by white light. Conversely, if the dream is metaphorical, the woman is a symbol for your boyfriend's unfaithfulness. If this is the case, it may suggest that your boyfriend may be contemplating repeating his former behavior. –

I'm a 21-year-old female from Indiana. I recently had a dream that I found rather unsettling. The only part of my dream that I remember vividly is having sex with my mother. It was very detailed, lengthy, and extremely intimate. I knew in my dream that it was my mother but the entire act seemed very natural. I was hoping for an interpretation, because I've been unable to even look my mother in the eye since then. I've been so embarrassed..

Dear Dreamer
Actually the dream is one had by a number of individuals and generally has several possible interpretations. One possibility is because we so often associate love with sex, the dream was simply demonstrating your close connection to your mother. Another possibility is that your mother in the dream represents your elder or your Higher Self, and the dream is portraying some type of personal integration that is occurring in your life. A third and very likely possibility is connected to the fact that we often change roles and relationships in the process of reincarnation and that the dream is portraying the fact that you once had a very intimate relationship with your mother in a previous life and that is where some of your relationship connection comes from. For a look at family relationships over time, let me recommend the book Family Karma: The Hidden Ties that Bind by Kevin Todeschi. –

I am a 22-year-old woman who has been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about a year. I know he is "the one." As background, when I was 15 I had an abortion and the father of the baby disregarded me and hurt me so deeply. Now I keep having this dream whereby I'm with my current boyfriend and were really happy and then he goes and leaves me for someone else. The odd thing about it is when I look closely at him he's not my current boyfriend but the boy who got me pregnant when I was 15. As soon as I see it's him I start to feel sick and this big ball of hate starts to rise inside me. When I wake from this dream I often still feel sick. Am I scared of getting hurt again do you think? Or maybe I haven't completely dealt with my past yet?

Dear Dreamer
Unfortunately, the dream could be about one of two completely different meanings. If the dream is metaphorical, it might be suggesting that part of you is extremely cautious about completely opening up in this relationship because of what happened when you were much younger. On the other hand, if the dream is literal, it could be suggesting that the potential is there for you to experience the same kind of hurt that you did when you were fifteen. In either event, you might wish to consider some personal therapy. If the metaphorical situation is most true, it suggests that you need to revisit this period in your life and bring about healing so that you can have a relationship in the present. If the literal is more true you need to find out what you might be doing to repeatedly draw "rejection" into your life experience. Good luck to you. –

A little background information is that I met the cutest man I've ever seen in life (literally), but he's very not dependable. He doesn't call when he says he will and such, and we're not in a relationship. We've just talked a few times on the phone. After one of his nights of not calling when he said he would, I had a dream about him: In the dream, he texted me his "schedule," which went like, "Monday: Rhannie (me), Sheri, Crystal; Tuesday: Ashley, Kim, Brittany; " etc, etc. And he had sent it to each chick on the schedule! And then (in the dream) he called and asked if he could come over, and like an idiot, I said yes. And he was like, "Cool, so can you dress up like a Greek or a Roman or something?" And I was going crazy trying to figure out a Greek or Roman outfit. If you could interpret that dream, it would be MUCH appreciated! It has really been disturbing me!

Dear Dreamer
The dream is pretty straightforward, it suggests that he is very much involved in other relationships, and his keeping track of all of them is one of the reasons he is not very dependable with his schedule. In terms of the Greek or Roman outfits, they suggest that part of your attraction to this soul may be from a past life when you were perhaps also one of the many obligations on his schedule. At the very least, the dream does not suggest he is very capable of a one-on-one committed relationship. –

I submitted these dreams before. I am desperate to find some answers in them, because at this moment it seems that my, now, ex-partner and I are living the conflict part of this dream. Should I play it out or walk away? As background information, when I was 14 years old, I was "in love" with this girl. I tried for several years to win her heart, and when I thought I did, she finally said it was time to give our relationship a second try she changed her mind after three days. This broke my heart. But the strange thing is that during this time I kept having this dream: I fell in love with a Native Woman of my own background. She would be more in touch with our native ways than me, but her family did not really like me, and I was constantly fighting for her. On one occasion I had to fight a man for her. This man was pushed our way by her family, and the fight nearly destroyed me, but in the end I won. In terms of my girlfriend, about two years ago she had the following dream: She was running near the school where she works and the girls are attending. Her family is chasing her, wanting to hurt her. She comes to the fence and sees a man calling her to come to him. She starts to go in and she gets this strange feeling from him. He tries to get her to go into a truck with him, when she notices these black piles around him. She looks close and sees that they are pile of dead crows spiting blood, when she turns to him his eyes change color and she runs again. This time she finds me and the girls. We driving away from that place as fast as we can, around us everything exploding, but she feels safe.

Dear Dreamer
First of all, most dreams simply "contrast and correlate" the events of the day - giving the dreamer another way of looking at situations occurring in waking life at the time of the dream. With this in mind, your dream as a fourteen-year-old probably has more to do with what was occurring in your life back then than it does now. The dream was obviously a past-life dream, presenting the struggle and conflict that was occurring in your life and giving you a rationale explanation for that struggle. Your girlfriend's dream suggests that she would be attracted to someone or something else that eventually would go no where. After that experience, she would return to be with someone he was more compatible with her. If the dream was literal, it suggests she would reconcile with you. If the dream was metaphorical, it suggests that she would get together with someone who embodied what she hoped you were. –

I am a seventeen-year-old male and I have a friend and she is also seventeen. We are good friends that chat a lot over the phone and through the Internet. Neither of us is sexually active, and she has made it clear that she only wants to be friends. About a week ago she called me and said she had a dream that we were having sex. That part didn't seem strange but I also had a dream similar to her's the same night as her dream. But my dreams about her didn't stop that night. The two nights after that I had two more about the same thing. However, on the third dream, it showed her moving in with me. I tend to doubt these things will happen, but I would like to see the meaning of this. Is this something that is bound to happen or are we just freaks?

Dear Dreamer
No, you are not freaks; the dreams have a couple of possible meanings. From the perspective of the Edgar Cayce information, it's quite possible to "meet someone" in consciousness in the dream state and interact with that person in a way that would not necessarily occur physically. With this in mind, one possible interpretation of the dreams is that you and your friend became aware of spending time together in consciousness because of a mutual desire at some level. Therefore, the dreams were "real," but they were real in consciousness only. The second interpretation is that the dreams may be somewhat precognitive, and suggest a closer relationship between the two of you. Actually, this interpretation may be the most likely as the dream shows your friend moving in with you - perhaps symbolizing that she will become more interested than simply remaining friends. I hope that helps. –

I have been married for 13 years and love my husband deeply. I keep having dreams of trying to have sex with him but right before we can get in to it someone (never the same person, sometimes even strangers) keep interrupting us so that we never get to have sex. Sometimes this happens 4 or 5 times in the same dream.

Dear Dreamer
The dream simply suggests that the demands of your life often seem to take your attention away from your relationship with your husband, and having the opportunity to spend quality time together. If this is the case, I think the dream is suggesting a change in priorities and perhaps even scheduling regular time with your husband so that your relationship does not come behind everything else. –

My live-in boyfriend gave me an engagement ring. But it wasn't a diamond; it was big plastic bubble. I didn't feel comfortable and was worrying what everyone would say. We then went to a strange house to see an old man who had diamonds to choose one to put in the ring. I was thinking they weren't very big - not as big as my sister-in-laws, who is my partner's actual sister who is getting married to my actual brother in real life.

Dear Dreamer
One possibility suggested by this dream is a growing sense that you may not be as committed to this relationship as your boyfriend and everyone else around you seems to be. There is also a sense that part of you wants to make this relationship work because everyone else seems to think it is a neat idea to have a couple of siblings marry each other. If this is the case, I think the dream is telling you not to settle for something less than you really want. –

I searched thru all of your relationship dreams and found nothing like this one I had last night. I dreamt that my family (Dad, Mom, two brothers, myself and my best male friend) were back in our old high rise apartment. Anyway, we all looked out the window and as far as the eye could see was rushing water, everywhere! A while later, we were all outside and my mom was walking behind my dad and my dad fell on the ground and died...my brothers (who are 25 and 22 respectfully) were now like 3 and 6 years old. They were both sad and looking at me with tears in their eyes. Throughout the entire dream, my best friend kept coming up to me saying, "I am determined to win you" and kisses me! Now, in real life, this would not be a bad thing at all!!! But, in real life, he has told me that he isn't ready for a committed relationship, (there is also a 7 year age difference betwixt us) and lately I have been respecting his stance and have withdrawn from him a bit. Both as a protective thing for my heart and to give him a taste of what life is like minus me. Could you PLEASE tell me what this is about? Also, my dad is leaving for prison soon and has been addicted to crack for the last 20+ years...does that help?

Dear Dreamer
The first part of the dream with the rushing water suggests that all of the activities in your life right now have been a real emotional experience for you. The fact that your father drops down dead suggests that (at least while he is in prison) his presence will be "dead" to the family. Part of his departure may include your brothers becoming very immature and childish because he is no longer around - that is why they appear as children in your dream. Finally, the presence of your male friend suggests that either he may be more committed to you that he has admitted, or the fact that you may be more committed to winning him over than you have admitted, or both. In any event with so much occurring in your life, may God bless you at this time. –

I looked thru the archives and didn't see any similar dreams. As background information, my friend is having a very distressing marriage at this time. She is making the moves to escape but it has been very slow going. Her husband is very commanding and domineering yet a weak man that can't think of what to do next without his mother's guidance. She has raised 2 children who he has now turned against her and she feels like she's fighting 3 battles. Anyway, her dream the other night was that she and her husband were driving along the ocean and the farther they went the closer they got to the water. Soon they were in a muddy muck where the car became stuck. She said that her only thought was to escape but couldn't figure out how to get out of the car and across the mud to safety. Yet all the time she was not afraid that she would die. She has had premonitions before and most come true within about two weeks but she doesn't feel that this was a premonition. Can you help?

Dear Dreamer
In all likelihood the dream has two possibilities. One could be that your own feelings of sexuality are being repressed during the day, and therefore they come out at night. If, for example, you are having a difficult time coming to terms with sexual urges and desires, they are apt to come to your awareness while you are sleeping. The other possibility is that someone that you know may be having sexual fantasies about you, and while you are dreaming you are picking up on those thoughts and feelings in the dream state.–

I always dream of a man who has sex with me in bed. I had the same dream a couple times already. I can't see his face. At times, I try to ward the man off but eventually I end up in bed with him. It all feels so real. When I wake up I feel extremely guilty about it.

I really need your help, I read all the dream archives and I could not find anything similar to mine. Today I was supposed to go out with this nice guy but I canceled because of the dream I had. I'm a 20-year-old girl, who broke up with her boyfriend. I really loved him, and I'm having hard time to move on. We broke up because my mom meet him once and asked him what I was for him and he answered that he wasn't sure and that he didn't know if he felt anything for me. I'm just explaining my situation. This is my dream: I was walking with my mother in the cafeteria of my college and there I saw one of my friends with his ex-girlfriend, he saluted me and asked me who was the lady close to me, I told him my mother, but when I looked at my mom, she didn't have shoes on only a pair of dirty socks and also her clothes were dirty, like she was working in a factory, also her hair was short (she has a long hair), I love my mom and this worries me a lot. Except embarrassment and worried about my mother's appearance, I woke up with this sensation that: I should not meet this guy that I am supposed to meet for a date, maybe there is a chance I can get together with my ex-boyfriend, just the way how I saw my friend with his ex-girlfriend. I felt it in my dream too! Maybe it's not time for me to move on yet. Please I need your help..

Dear Dreamer
There are lots of possibilities here but one likely interpretation is that your mother's appearance in the dream is a reflection of your own personal self-esteem. After all, why would you decide not to go out with a "nice guy" and instead want to go out with someone who says that he isn't sure whether or not he feels anything for you. Two other ways to get at the proper interpretation would be to ask yourself how well your mother and your girlfriend have done with their own personal relationships. If they have not done that well, the dream is indicating that you are following in their "dirty" footsteps. If the self-esteem issue is a problem for you, it might be a better idea to focus on yourself right now rather than guys. Good luck to you, –

I am 15 and in 10th grade. For the past two days I have been dreaming of being murdered - stabbed by a kid at my school, who seems to have my friend's boyfriends last name. I don't know what it means? Help me please.

Dear Dreamer
In all likelihood the dream is simply showing you that someone may be saying bad things about you (e.g. stabbing you in the back). Rather than offering any solution to the problem, the dream may simply be a warning to you about being so open (or argumentative) with people like your friend and your friend's boyfriend. –

I am a 20-year-old female. A few weeks ago I prayed for a dream to know what to do with my life. I am in a 3-year relationship and I have a son with the man I am with. In my dream, I dreamt that I was with an ex-boyfriend and I was so happy and life was good. The ex I dreamed about has been a friend of mine for seven years. We never really dated but he has always been in my life and I do love him. He is fixing to get married though. Please tell me what my dream means.

Dear Dreamer
Unfortunately, the answer is not an easy one as the dream could have a variety of possible interpretations. If the dream is literal, it might indicate that you need to tell your "friend" how you really feel about him before he gets married, if you sincerely have wondered about having a relationship with him. Conversely, however, a metaphorical interpretation is just as likely. The dream could suggest that you have considered breaking up with your current boyfriend (or have broken up and are now back together), and the "ex" in the dream is really a symbol for him, suggesting that you have the potential to be very happy together. A third possibility might be that you tend to live in the past and think more fondly of days gone by than you felt when you were actually in the midst of them. I think you may need to do some seriously soul-searching about what you really want in life. Good luck to you.

In real life my brother was murdered by his wife on July 7,2004. It was a Wednesday. Last Wednesday night I had a dream that my phone rang and I answered it. It was my brother. I told him he needed to come home now and he said he couldn't that he had been shot and had been away to heal. He asked me how our Mom was doing and I told him that all of us are having a very hard time dealing with his death and that we all love him and miss him dearly. I told him again that he needed to come home where he belongs and he said that he couldn't but that he loves me and to tell the rest of the family that he loves them and misses them also and that he will be talking to me again sometime. I met my Mom for breakfast on the Friday following my dream and I told her that I wanted to tell her about a dream I had the previous Wednesday night, she said that she also had a dream that night. Her dream was that her phone was ringing also and she didn't make it in time to answer it but that she heard my brother's voice on the answering machine, but when she went to hit the replay button she accidentally hit the delete button instead. Now, in her dream my brother called her but she didn't get to talk to him and in my dream he called me also and I did talk to him. Both dreams were phone calls and in my dream I very clearly knew it was my brother. We have always been very close. He was just 30 when he was murdered. The day he died I was at work and I got a excruciating headache, I hardly ever get headaches. The pain was so intense and it came from the back of my head and radiated to the front. I remember looking at the clock to see how long it was before break - the clock said 8:12 am. That night I found out about my brother being killed. I didn't know until 3 days later that his wife had shot him in the back of the head and they estimated the time of the shooting to be around 8:17 that morning. I hope you can put some light on what I have experienced since his death.

Dear Dreamer
I think the dream is at least encouraging you to send a letter or try to make a contact in some way just to let her know how you're doing, how you've changed since you were last together, and how you still feel about her. Let me know what happens. –

I am a 24-year-old female and have recently been having a lot of dreams about one of my ex-boyfriends, whom I haven't been with for 4 years. In my dream I am sitting in a park having a picnic with a friend although I cannot see his/her face. I look across the street and there is my ex-boyfriend about to get into an elevator, he turns and sees me and starts to walk towards me. As he gets closer I can see a wedding ring on his finger, it looks very shiny and bright, he looks at the ring, takes it off and hands it to me. The ring has writing on it though I can't make out what it says. I then throw the ring into the middle of the park and my ex-boyfriend just stares at me. It's at this point I wake up. I was hoping you could give me some insight into what this dream means?

Dear Dreamer
A likely interpretation is that someone from your past (not necessarily the boyfriend you dreamed about - although it could be) is going to "run into you." This individual is probably in the process of going through a divorce. The dream may be suggesting that rather than quickly "reacting to" a chance meeting (perhaps, for example, because of anger from the past) you may wish to think through your response ahead of time. In any event, I think the dream is suggesting that a relationship is either coming back into your life or experiencing some kind of renewal in your life. –

I have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years now. I am 28 and feeling eager to be married and start a family before I am 30. I know he wants to marry me but he is saving up for the ring. I have recently been dreaming that he has given me an engagement ring. It starts out looking nice, but then when I look at it later there are missing diamonds. In the last dream I had it went from a nice ring to practically a bubble gum ring. What does this mean please?

Dear Dreamer
There are a couple of likely possibilities. One is that the longer you are involved in this relationship, the less valuable it has become for you. In other words, you may be having second thoughts about getting married. Alternatively, a completely different interpretation is that the longer you wait, the less important the financial aspects of the ring are and instead you are simply willing to have fun and follow through with your plans. I hope that helps. –

I am a 22-year-old female who is in a bind. I left my husband in November of 2003. At the time we lived with his parents and when I left it hurt him and me badly. Along the way we decided to divorce. Well in my dream last night I dreamt that we were back at his parents house and I had my two boys with me. He began to say that he still loved me and wanted to work things out. This girl whom I presumed was his girlfriend (I don't know if he has one) was there and it made me angry and I told her that he and I were getting back together. I then turned around and told my boys: "Look, there's daddy." (They have yet to talk to him or see him since we left.) My little one was confused and said, "No it's not." I told my husband that I had told him that the baby wouldn't remember him. I then turned around and was in a casino playing a slot machine and I had hit the jackpot. After that I ran into my sister-in-law and we decided we would go to a club to party and we never were able to arrive there and I woke up. When I woke up I had a sad feeling and I began to cry. I don't understand all this and I seriously am bummed about it. Can you PLEASE help relieve this anguish?

Dear Dreamer
Well, first of all I have a hard time understanding why a father (or grandparents) wouldn't make an attempt to see a child in over a year. I am saying this because if there is a reason to doubt his parental abilities or the safety of yourself or the children, then the interpretation of the dream is probably very different than what I am going to tell you. With this in mind, I think that the dream is suggesting you and your husband may be getting back together and that this "jackpot" is exactly what you've been looking for. However, changes are going to have to be made - in your case, you may need to stop "partying." If this sounds possible to you, why not contact the boy's father and say that they would like to see him. Perhaps you could get together for lunch. Good luck. –

I haven't spoken to my father for roughly 10 years, nor has any of his family. We all have issues with his wife. We (he, me and his wife) have recently been at functions together for my stepsister's children and have talked very minimally, but about nothing important. He asked my step-sis to have me call him, and I haven't done so yet. I'm scared to dredge up the past...anyway, here is the dream. My stepsister comes to my house in the morning and tells me that my father has passed away. I start crying; I can't stop. She leaves and tells me she will call me later, but could I tell the rest of the family. So I try to call my aunt, uncle and grandfather. No one picks up the phone and no one will return my calls. I'm still crying. I can't stop crying then I can't find anyone that will listen to me. No one will help me and I'm still crying and crying. This is the end of the dream. I wake up crying my eyes out. Help!

Dear Dreamer
It's pretty clear that you need to call your father immediately. If you had the depth of emotion you described upon learning of his death, how are you going to feel when it really happens and you never returned the phone call even when he asked you to call? The image of frequently being unable to get anyone to return your calls is symbolic of communication problems. While you still have time, I would attempt to reconcile with your father or you may regret it for a very long time to come. Good luck to you.

I've been through your dream archives and can't find anything similar to my dream. Please help me; this dream is driving me nuts! To give you some background my ex partner and I broke up about 3 years ago. I was 20 at the time and cared very deeply for him. We broke up as he met someone else and wanted to be with her. Over the next 3 years we had an off and on relationship; however, he would always go back to the other woman. His partner was unfaithful and tried several attempts to hurt herself; we ended up having a huge fight and had not spoken for a year. Then 3 weeks ago I started having this recurring dream that I'm standing in a remote dessert type place, out of no where my ex partner's current girlfriend walks up to me and hands me a huge bunch of red roses and then walks away. I begin to smell the flowers and I notice they begin to wilt so I plant them in the dry dirt and then tall rose bushes suddenly surround me. As I'm staring at the rose bushes I can see a white car out of the corner of my eye. Then a strong male voice says that his girlfriend has been charged with murder and the car drives off into the distance. This is where my dream ends every time. After 3 weeks of this dream I ran into my ex and he told me his girlfriend was moving overseas and he would probably move as well, then we got into an argument. I still continue to have this dream! Please help; this dream won't go away!

Dear Dreamer
Roses are general symbolic of love and relationships. Your boyfriend's current girlfriend with the flowers is probably symbolic of the way he's cheated on you, and then come back to you slightly wilted and used. Notice that you do not get new flowers as far as he is concerned. The fact that you plant these flowers in good dirt and then are surrounded by rose bushes could indicate that your next relationship is going to be even better than you might have imagined. The fact that his girlfriend is charged would murder probably indicates that her move will be the "death" of your relationship with him, as he is probably going to end up following her. Rather than becoming upset by this possibility, I think you're dream may be indicating a very rewarding and fruitful relationship in your near future. –

I'm a 23-year-old girl. I'm in a long distance relationship for the past four years. My parents don't really approve of my boyfriend or of us getting married. Right now I'm confused and don't know whether he is the right person or not. Last night before going to sleep I realized that he doesn't have some of the qualities that I wanted in a husband. Then I dreamt that I'm in the most beautiful garden in the world. I'm married to someone I don't know. I've been dreaming of this person for the past 4 years now - I don't know who he is but he is always there in my dreams. I was sitting near this beautiful pond, surrounded by beautiful huge strong trees, butterflies, animals, and the most beautiful flowers I've ever seen. The place was like a fairy tale, and I was content and happy. Please help me understand this dream. I was very happy in it and felt that finally I'm marrying the man I've always wanted and dreamed of.

Dear Dreamer
Quite simply, the dream is trying to reassure you that you will find the husband of your dreams and not to rush into anything. The fact that you don't know the man in the dream suggests that you haven't yet met him. In any event, the dream is trying to reassure you that everything will be okay. The fact that you've had this dream for the same number of years as you've had your current boyfriend could suggest that your subconscious mind has been trying to tell you all along to "wait," every time you've wondered what to do, or it MIGHT indicate that eventually your current boyfriend undergoes an incredible transformation so he no longer resembles the young man you're currently dating. In either event, the dream is suggesting that now is not the time to get married. Good luck to you.

Please Help. I am engaged to a man who has been friends with his ex girlfriend. One of the many reasons they broke up was because she did not wish to have a child. I agreed that we would try, put it in God's hands etc. The dream is of me delivering our baby, lying there on the table, when in walks my husband and his ex girlfriend - both of them smiling at me & holding hands. It was horrible for me. Please let me know your thoughts.

Dear Dreamer
The dream could be suggesting that part of you is jealous of your husband's friendship with his ex, and that part of you hopes once you get together and have a child that old relationship will end. The dream suggests that it will not. Another possibility is suggesting that your husband still has strong feelings for his ex and that even if you have a child, there is a possibility the two of them could end up together. In either event, I think you may need to talk about your fears and concerns related to his ex.

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